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Negativity, Gossip, and Other Bad Habits

Everystockphoto_224932_tn  This morning I was talking to my daughter on the phone, our daily call while she drives to work.  And I launched into a bit of gossip about a friend we both know.  Nothing terribly malicious, just some gossip about how this person is negative and bitchy, with a hint of superiority that I'm not that way thrown in.

Except I was being negative and bitchy about my friend at that very moment.

Which stopped me short.  I corrected myself and told my daughter I wanted to drop the subject because I am attempting to stop being negative, bitchy and gossipy.  So we dropped the gossip and I told her the genesis of this little effort of mine.

I'm enrolled in Lisa Sasevich's Big Mission, Big Life, Big Sales online bootcamp, which is pretty amazing and awesome, and one of the things she talks about in the first home-study DVD is the work of a woman named Edwene Gaines. Edwene wrote a book called The Four Spiritual Laws of Prosperity, and in it she issues a challenge to people to go 21 days without being negative, gossipy or judgmental.

Deep breath.

It was one of those things that I hated hearing because as soon as I heard it I knew I had to do it.  Sigh.  I don't even have Edwene's book yet, though it is on its way from Amazon, but I figured that was no excuse not to get going on this project.

After all, the idea is simple.  Just quit being negative, gossipy, and judgmental.  And seeing as how I spent Monday morning in Nashville at a PBS filming in which Beverly Danusis outlined the seven practices that weaken us as guilt, comparison, competition, blame, shame, judgment, and asking why me?, I knew I had my marching orders.

So I'm working on it.

Want to join me?  Have any of you tried this or something similar?  Do tell.

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